Whether your relationship is new or you are on your 60th wedding anniversary, it’s important to remain curious about your significant other.  We, at times, forget to remain inquisitive about ourselves, our partner and our overall relationship.  No matter how well you think you know each other, allowing an opportunity to sprout for getting to know more is important to keeping it fresh.  Instead of scrolling through your phone, try one of these conversation starters.

  1.  This is a Mama Haberman favorite.  Give me two positives and one negative from your day.  This helps highlight more positives than negatives, but also gives time and space to talk about something hard that may have happened in the day.
  2.   What are the thoughts kicking around in your head right now?  At any given time we usually have one thought swooping through our minds.  This will not only help build connectivity, but may also help that thought finally release itself from the brain.
  3. What are the top three things in your life you are grateful for today?  As noted in other blogs about gratitude, it consistently helps shift us into happiness.  This can also help shift conversations after work from stress to a positive outlook on your life or your life together.
  4. What’s something you have wanted to do, but haven’t gotten around to?  This question helps identify something that may be a new desire or hobby you weren’t aware your partner wanted to get into.  This will allow you to have a deeper understanding of the other person and give you the chance to help make it happen or at least support the other person.